# Options and Resources_SHARE

**Source**: https://csndr.harvard.edu/options-and-resources-share
**Parent**: https://csndr.harvard.edu/report-concern-ndab

# Options and Resources\_SHARE

## Options and Resources

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## Options

In addition to the support that the SHARE Team offers, there are many resources available on and off campus. If you would like, the SHARE Team can support you in working with these local resources. 

We recognize the ways that the intersection of person’s and community’s identities, such as race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, ability, documentation status, and socioeconomic background can influence the extent to which resources are accessible, trusted, or helpful.

What is most important is that you know all of your options and find the supports that feel best for you.

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### Coping, Self-Care, and Healing expand\_more

Whether you experienced harm recently or a long time ago, you might be coping with a range of impacts. This might include feeling anxious, angry, frustrated, tired, numb, unmotivated, distracted or like you cannot concentrate, or a host of other feelings. Some people express wanting to ‘feel like their old self again.’ 

These feelings make sense. Yet, we also recognize they might be getting in the way of things that you would like to be doing. Below are some resources that you could try on your own or with others, to cope with some of these impacts and support your path toward healing. We suggest picking two or three of these coping skills to practice on your own or with a trusted person. \

- [Box Breathing](https://youtu.be/a7uQXDkxEtM)
- [Belly Breathing](https://youtu.be/OXjlR4mXxSk)
- [Butterfly Tapping](https://youtu.be/iGGJrqscvtU)
- [5-4-3-2-1 Technique](https://youtu.be/pY0Ldqwmz_Q)
- [Body Scan](https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/body_scan_meditation)
- [Alternate Nostril Breathing](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a7re4bKxB3A)
- [5 minute yoga practice for grounding](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7VoUqTPyOR4)
- [Decompression meditation](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QHkXvPq2pQE)
- [Slow your breathing](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IB1JNAcc2mc)
- [Meditation for rest with Tricia Hersey](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nENorI4rWeU)
- [Coping and self-care](https://barcc.org/get-help/resources/self-care-and-coping-exercises/)\

For more information about mental health, counseling, and advocacy resources, see the Community Support and Education tab below.

### Accessing Medical Care expand\_more

There may be many reasons why you might consider accessing medical care at some point in time. Often these medical processes and decisions can feel confusing and overwhelming. It is normal and okay to be unsure of what you want or not want to or be ready to make these decisions.

SHARE Counselors are available if you have any additional questions about your medical options or would like support in the process at any point in time.

Some information and timelines you might want to keep in mind if you are thinking about seeking medical care: 

- **Pregnancy:**

  Emergency contraception (often called ‘the morning after pill) can decrease the likelihood of pregnancy. There are 2 kinds of emergency contraception. They are most effective if taken within 24 hours, however one kind can be taken within 72 hours/3 days, and the other kind can be taken within 120 hours/5 days.

  In Massachusetts, emergency contraception is available:

  - Over the counter at most pharmacies
  - At the [ScriptCenter Kiosk](https://huhs.harvard.edu/2022/01/01/scriptcenter-huhs/), inside of the HUHS main entrance in the Smith Campus Center
  - By a healthcare provider
  - As part of a Sexual Assault Evidence Collection Kit at the hospital
- **HIV and STIs**: HIV emergency post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) should be started as soon as possible for maximum effectiveness and must be started within 72 hours of the potential exposure. You can access this at no charge through [SANE services](https://www.mass.gov/info-details/designated-sane-site-hospitals) or through a medical provider.
- **Toxicology/Drug testing**: If you suspect that you were given any type of drug and you choose to try and confirm, testing should be administered as soon as possible as different drugs will be detected for different periods of time after they have been ingested. In general, toxicology testing is available within the first 96 hours after an assault.
- See Section "Accessing a SANE (Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner)" below for more information around forensic sexual assault medical attention.

**Additional Medical Resources:**

- [Fenway Health](https://fenwayhealth.org/)
- [Hospitals with SANEs](https://www.mass.gov/info-details/designated-sane-site-hospitals)
- [Planned Parenthood Boston](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-center/massachusetts/boston/02215/greater-boston-health-center-3293-90610)

### Accessing a Sexual Assault Evidence Collection Kit expand\_more

Sexual Assault Evidence Collection Kits are administered by a SANE (Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner).

[Designated SANE Site Hospitals in Massachusetts](https://www.mass.gov/info-details/designated-sane-site-hospitals)

**SANE Exam:** If you choose to have forensic evidence collected from a trained Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner (SANE), you can do so at a qualifying hospital emergency department within 120 hours/5 days of the assault. The sooner you go to the hospital after an assault, the more options you may have.

- During a SAECK (Sexual Assault Evidence Collection Kit) the SANE will also offer preventative treatment for pregnancy, HIV, STIs, and related concerns. You do not have to go for a SAECK to get preventative treatment. You can also visit your own primary care doctor or a health clinic for preventative care.
- If you have a SAECK done, you get to decide whether or not you would like to file a police report. It is up to you whether, when, and with whom you share that evidence.
- Should you wish to have evidence collected and go for a SAECK (Sexual Assault Evidence Collection Kit), some things to keep in mind include:
  - In general, you could be at the hospital for up to 6 to 8 hours. Some things to think about are:
    - Would you like someone to go with you?
    - Are there things you want to pack, such as a phone charger, something to do while you are waiting, something that might feel comforting, extra layers of clothes in case you get cold, snacks, etc.?
  - If you are concerned about the hospital exam being billed to you or a family member’s insurance, let the hospital staff know. In Massachusetts, there is no cost to you for a SAECK. The SHARE Team, as well as many other resources in the community, can help you navigate this.
  - If possible, try to not bathe, wash, douche, smoke, change your clothes or clean the area where you were assaulted before evidence is collected.
  - You will have the option of leaving any clothes you were wearing during or immediately after the assault as part of the evidence.
    - If you do, you will not get this clothing back. If you wear them to the hospital, bring clothes that you would like to change into.
    - If you change before going to the hospital, store anything you were wearing in a clean paper bag.
- Save copies or screenshots of email messages, text messages, instant messages, social networking pages, pictures, logs, or any other documents that could be helpful in an investigation of the incident.
- Write down anything you can remember about the other person, including the location and time of the incident, a description of the person who caused the harm, and a description of any injuries.
- Even if you do not believe you want to pursue criminal action, it can be helpful to retain evidence in case you would like to at a later date.

### Safety Planning expand\_more

There are times when you may be concerned about your safety or the safety of another person because of the behavior of someone in your life. You may be concerned because they act in ways that are controlling, manipulative, dangerous, overwhelming, or because of the power that they have. This person could be a partner, a parent, a sibling, a boss, a coworker, or someone else. \
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If you are worried or are thinking about safety planning, you could consider any of the following areas:

- Access to technology and passwords
- Medications and health needs
- Housing | [Massachusetts Housing Assistance: Emergency and long-term help](https://www.mass.gov/info-details/massachusetts-housing-assistance-emergency-and-long-term-help)
- Transportation
- Bank accounts
- Pets and/or children
- Weapons
- Basic needs: food, medicine, water
- Address protection | [Massachusetts ACP (Address Confidentiality Program)](https://www.mass.gov/info-details/address-confidentiality-program-acp)
- Possible plans in an urgent situation

SHARE Counselors are available to help think through these things so that you do not have to do that alone. We can help with making safety plans that are personalized and make sense for you. 

- [Create Your Personal Safety Plan](https://www.thehotline.org/plan-for-safety/create-your-personal-safety-plan/#gf_1)
- [My Plan App](https://myplanapp.org/)

### Accessing Title IX expand\_more

There may be many reasons why you might consider:

- Contacting your [local Title IX Resource Coordinator](https://csndr.harvard.edu/local-title-ix-resource-coordinators)
- Learning more about the [University's policies and procedures](https://csndr.harvard.edu/policies-procedures)
- [Seeking supportive measures](https://csndr.harvard.edu/supportive-measures)
- [Reporting a concern](https://csndr.harvard.edu/report-concern-tix)

SHARE Counselors offer advocacy and accompaniment. This means the SHARE Team could be a confidential place to talk about what happened/is happening, discuss options, answer any questions about policies or processes, and/or go with someone to meetings as their support person. 

Please note, the SHARE Team does not share your information with anyone at the University without your consent. This includes Title IX, Harvard University Health Services, Harvard staff or faculty, and anyone connected with judicial, legal, or conduct processes.

### Financial expand\_more

Finances play a role in safety, autonomy, stability, and healing for many who have experienced sexual harassment, sexual assault, stalking, abusive relationships, or discrimination based on gender or sexual orientation. If you would like, SHARE Counselors are available to help you think through accessing options both at the University and in the community. Below are some examples of different resources. 

Some schools within Harvard have emergency aid funds that students can apply for access of such as:

- [Harvard Kenneth C. Griffin Graduate School of Arts and Sciences Hardship Funding](https://gsas.harvard.edu/financial-support/funding-and-aid/hardship-funding)
- [Harvard Medical Student Emergency Aid Fund](https://meded.hms.harvard.edu/emergency-aid-fund)
- [Harvard University School of Design Student Emergency Fund](https://www.gsd.harvard.edu/gsd-student-emergency-fund/)

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[Harvard's Federal Credit Union](https://harvardfcu.org/thrive/) offers free workshops to the community and financial counseling for FCU members.\

Additional financial resources in the community that some people might consider are:

- Apply for [Massachusetts Victim Compensation Program](https://www.mass.gov/info-details/applying-for-victims-of-violent-crime-assistance#:~:text=The%20Victim%20Compensation%20Program%20at,to%20the%20inability%20to%20work.)
- Learn more about how [Free From](https://www.freefrom.org/survivors/) supports individuals impacted by gender-based violence including their cash assistance, savings matching program, community financial coaching, and more
- Explore [Allstate Foundation's Domestic Violence Program's](https://www.allstatecorporation.com/the-allstate-foundation/relationship-abuse.aspx) free course and resources, including credit building and cash assistance in order to help those impacted by intimate partner violence achieve financial security and live free from abuse

### Accessing Legal Information and Options expand\_more

If you have experienced sexual assault, an abusive relationship, stalking, or discrimination based on gender or sexual orientation, you may want to know more about legal processes, such as:

- Seeking a protective order
- Breaking a lease
- Filing a discrimination claim, or
- Immigration (U visa, T visa, or asylum)

These processes may vary between towns and states. Contact the SHARE Team for more specific information about any of these processes or support in accessing them.

**Seeking a Protective Order**

In Massachusetts there are two kinds of protective orders:

1. [Abuse Prevention Order](https://www.mass.gov/doc/gl-c-209a-abuse-prevention-orderrestraining-order-application-forms/download) (often referred to as a restraining order or a 209a)
2. [Harassment Prevention Order](https://www.mass.gov/harassment-prevention-orders) (often referred to as. 258e)

These are civil orders that are implemented by the court system. Here is a a brief overview of the [difference between these two prevention orders](https://www.mass.gov/doc/am-i-eligible-for-a-restraining-order-handout/download).

To apply for one, you need to either go to the Court Clerk’s office during business hours or go to the police after business hours for an emergency order. If you seek an emergency order, you will still have to go to the Court Clerk’s office the next day.

If the order is granted by a judge, you have to go back to court in approximately 10 days for a hearing where a judge decides whether to extend the order for a longer period of time.

**Massachusetts Commission Against Discrimination (MCAD)**

The MCAD is a neutral entity that enforces Massachusetts anti-discrimination laws by investigating complaints that allege discrimination in employment, housing, public accommodations, higher education admissions, credit, and lending. If it is found that discrimination has likely occurred, the MCAD prosecutes and adjudicates such cases. Complaints can be filed directly on the [MCAD site](https://The MCAD enforces Massachusetts anti-discrimination laws by investigating complaints that allege discrimination in employment, housing, public accommodations, higher education admissions, credit, and lending as a neutral entity. If it is found that discrimination has likely occurred, the MCAD prosecutes and adjudicates such cases.). The SHARE Team is available in supporting those considering initiating the complaint process. 

**Attorney General of Massachusetts, Civil Rights Division** 

The Attorney General’s Civil Rights Division reviews and responds to civil rights complaints alleging deprivations of, or interference with, civil rights and civil liberties. The office may bring enforcement action, where appropriate, may mediate disputes, or may refer complainants to other resources. Access more information via the [Attorney General of Massachusetts Civil Rights Division site](http://www.mass.gov/ago/bureaus/public-protection-and-advocacy/the-civil-rights-division/). 

**Additional Advocacy and Legal Resources:**

- [Atask](https://www.atask.org/)
- [BARCC](https://barcc.org/)
- [DeNovo](https://www.denovo.org/contact)
- [DVI Legal Clinic](https://dvilegal.org/)
- [GBLS](https://www.gbls.org/)
- [GLAD Law](https://www.gladlaw.org/)
- [Immigration Equality](https://immigrationequality.org/)
- [PAIR Project](https://www.pairproject.org/)
- [Sanctuary for Families](https://sanctuaryforfamilies.org/)
- [Steps to Justice](https://thesecondstep.org/stj/)
- [Transgender Law Center](https://transgenderlawcenter.org/)
- [VRLC](https://victimrights.org/)

The SHARE Team can help answer questions, apply, try to seek legal resources, and go to court with you as a support.

### Reporting to the Police expand\_more

You can choose whether or not to file a police report at any time.

If you decide to file a police report, the report is submitted to the District Attorney’s office, who decides whether or not to proceed with criminal charges.

If the District Attorney’s office proceeds, the charges become the State’s criminal cases against the person(s) who committed the crime. You are considered a witness to the case and will be asked to participate in the investigation and any court processes.

Policies vary from state to state, city to city, and town to town.

The SHARE Team can help answer questions, connect with local law enforcement, and go with you as a support.

### Community Support and Education Resources expand\_more

**Comprehensive Sexual Assault/Abusive Relationship Support Resources**\
*(These resources offer a range of services such as counseling, medical adovcacy, legal advocacy, and more)*

- [ATASK](https://www.atask.org/)
- [BARCC](https://barcc.org/)
- [BIDMC CVPR](https://www.bidmc.org/centers-and-departments/social-work/center-for-violence-prevention-and-recovery)
- [BMC Advocates](https://www.bmc.org/domestic-violence-program)
- [BWH Passageway](https://www.brighamandwomens.org/about-bwh/community-health-equity/passageway-domestic-abuse-intervention-and-prevention)
- [Helping Survivors](https://helpingsurvivors.org/)
- [MassEquality](https://massequality.org/)
- [MTPC](https://www.masstpc.org/)
- [National DV Hotline](https://www.thehotline.org/)
- [The Network/La Red](https://www.tnlr.org/en/)
- [NWH DV SV](https://www.nwh.org/classes-and-resources/community-services/domestic-sexual-violence/domestic-and-sexual-violence-services)
- [Safelink](https://casamyrna.org/get-support/safelink/)
- [Saheli](https://saheliboston.org/)
- [Sasha Center](https://www.sashacenter.org/)
- [Second Step](https://thesecondstep.org/)
- [Ujima: National Center on Violence Against Women in the Black Community](https://ujimacommunity.org/)
- Fenway Health's [VRP](https://fenwayhealth.org/care/behavioral-health/violence-recovery/)

**General Counseling and Mental Health Resources:**

- [Black Men Heal](https://blackmenheal.org/)
- [Call Blackline](https://www.callblackline.com/)
- [Child Witness to Violence](https://www.bmc.org/child-witness-violence-project)
- [Children with Voices Program](https://www.riversidecc.org/services-for-communities/domestic-violence-services-2/families-with-voices/)
- [Healing in Colour](https://www.healingincolour.com/)
- [Inclusive Therapists](https://www.inclusivetherapists.com/)
- [INNOPSYCH - Therapists of Color](https://www.innopsych.com/)
- [MA DMH Multicultural Mental Health Resource Directory](https://www.mass.gov/lists/dmh-multicultural-mental-health-resource-directory)
- [Project Heal](https://www.theprojectheal.org/)
- [Therapy Den](https://www.therapyden.com/)
- [Therapy for Black Girls](https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com/)\

**Violence Prevention/Education**

- [Break the Cycle](https://www.breakthecycle.org/)
- [Know Your IX](https://www.advocatesforyouth.org/campaigns/know-your-ix/)
- [Love is Respect](https://www.loveisrespect.org/)
- [RAINN](https://rainn.org/)
- [Right to Be](https://righttobe.org/)
- [SafeBAE](https://safebae.org/)
- [Teen Dating Violence Prevention Project](https://www.teendvmonth.org/)

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