What is a healthy relationship?

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Mastering the Art of Healthy Relationships: A Journey Worth Taking

Relationships, whether that is romantic, sexual, platonic; with friends, whānau, colleagues, or flatmates; they are like a thrilling rollercoaster ride. Relationships are full of turns and loops and it is up to you to ensure it’s the kind of ride you want to hop on again or leave. Relationships are integral to human beings. The way we connect, network, socialise, and create our morals and values depend on our social circles which is why it is important to make sure that you are in a healthy relationship!

The foundations to healthy relationships all depend on the elements of communication, healthy boundaries, mutual respect, and support for one another. Although this is a no brainer and you might have encountered these elements before, these foundational points are often the ones that tend to slip.

Often the way we interact in relationships are subject to mirroring our past without realising it. This can often be healthy or toxic depending on the relationship. Not only can toxicity emerge from your history but the way expectations and pressures from social media can affect the way we expect things in a relationship or take on the attitudes without realising.

Sometimes, it is easy to fall into toxicity when we have experienced hurt in past years. They often don’t leave until it is being dealt with.

This is why there are services like Chat the Weird Out that allows you to unpack any hidden factors that contribute to conflict in relationships or worries! It is the perfect 101 introduction for conflict management or a place to simply chat.

Spot the Signs!

Now, we don’t know about you, but our TikTok algorithm sometimes ends up in ‘Relationship-Tok’ where there are trends to ‘start a fight’ with a significant other by bringing up scenarios such as “would you still love me if I was a worm.” It’s funny here and there until it spirals into toxic behaviour.

These trendy contents can affect the way we approach conversation or react to another person without realising! These can eventually spiral into toxic unrealistic relationships between anyone. The glamourisation on social media between family content creators, friends, and partner(s) can influence and mystify the reality of our own relationships.

However, if you are in the position that is receiving toxic, abusive, or disrespect, some red flags to look out for:

• Constantly checking up to see where you are and who you are with
• Making you feel guilty for seeing friends or family, which can lead to isolation.
• Constant criticism and blame
• Lack of support or validation, which can lead to unresolved conflict and avoidance.

Recognising these red flags is crucial in addressing underlying issues and fostering a healthier environment.

Level up your Relationship Game

Ready to take on the relationship world with confidence?

Take control of your relationships with the intention of compassion, respect, communication, and healthy boundaries.

Remember that relationships can look different depending on the community and cultural context, so embrace this diversity with an open mind and heart. Take part in conversations that celebrate diversity! You must be comfortable expressing your wants, goals, fears, and limits without fearing what the other person will respond to.

After all this, make sure you are prioritising your well-being along the way. Not just wanting to hop back on the relationship rollercoaster ride but also to take care of your relationship with yourself.

Better you, better relationship.

Prioritize self-care, both physically and mentally. Build a support system, whether it is with your friends, family, or any of the services we have listed below; prioritising your well-being will contribute more positively to the relationships in your life.

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Congratulations in Mastering the Art of Healthy Relationships!

Support Services:

• 0800 733 843 Women’s Refuge crisis line – free from any phone, 24 hours a day, every day.
• 0508 744 633 Shine Helpline – free from any phone, 9am to 11pm every day.
• 0800 456 450 It’s Not OK info line – free from any phone, 9am to 11pm every day – for help/support if you are experiencing or witnessing family violence.
• Family Services Directory – provides contacts in your area that can help if you’re dealing with family violence.